TELEHEALTH PSYCHOLOGIST FOR WOMEN
A psychologist that understands you.
At Be & Become Psychology, I offer online telehealth psychology sessions via Zoom, focused on supporting women to restore their mental health and rebalance the invisible labour in their home.
In my practice, therapy is collaborative. Together, we’ll figure out what you need support with and what’s doable, now and in the future. Between sessions, I’ll offer small, manageable tasks that are realistic and achievable, and align with your goals. This isn’t about fitting a template – it’s about what works for you.
What are some signs you might need to see a psychologist?
Stress, burn out and overwhelm can affect your wellbeing in a range of ways. You might be experiencing increased anxiety, frustration and exhaustion. Or for some people, it’s feeling a loss of identity, detachment from family and friends, and a lack of patience with your children. Exhaustion, fatigue and a lack of motivation and energy are also common indicators that something isn’t working for you.
Typically, you just know that something isn’t feeling quite right. And that’s enough reason to seek out support.
Who I work with
If you feel exhausted, emotionally drained and overwhelmed by carrying the invisible load for your family, I’m here for you. I focus on supporting women to understand and manage emotional and mental fatigue and burn out. I also explore practical, structured ways to rebalance household labour to create a more balanced and emotionally sustainable partnership, which benefits everyone.
Everyone experiences stress, overwhelm and burn out differently.
You may only experience one or two of the ‘red flags’ below. There’s no minimum criteria for receiving support:
Feeling depleted and overwhelmed by the sense of having to ‘hold it all’ for your family
Constant multitasking, resulting in mental fatigue anddistraction
Irritability and depleted patience, often with your children or partner
A lack of motivation and sense of pointlessness
Increased or new difficulties in maintaining focus and starting tasks
Emotional changes - you may be highly emotional and reactive or feel numb
How can therapy with a psychologist for women help?
It’s one thing to identify that invisible labour and the mental load are contributing to your burn out. Restoring your mental health and rebalancing the load is something else entirely.
Speaking with a psychologist can help address the cause, as well as the symptoms. I don’t take a ‘one size fits all’ approach. Instead, I tailor clinically-appropriate, evidence-based mental health therapies for your needs, alongside practical strategies that go to the heart of the issue.
My telehealth sessions are a convenient, safe and easily accessible
Many women come seeking support to:
Gain mental space to rest, think clearly, and pursue personal goals
Share responsibilities more fairly at home, even if past attempts haven’t worked.
Get a road map for how to reduce the mental load
Feel better mentally and physically
Increase focus, clarity, and productivity
Feel calmer and enjoy healthier, more connected relationships
Establish clear systems and boundaries at home and work
Evidence-based psychological therapies and
strategies that help
Most people will benefit from support to overcome the symptoms of burn out, overwhelm and emotional fatigue. As a clinical psychologist, I use evidence-based therapies and strategies to care for your mental and emotional wellbeing.
For most clients, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), with elements from Dialectal Behavioural Therapy (DBT), Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT), and therapeutic conversations can be very effective. I also help you to find strategies, techniques and routines that help lower your stress levels – which often involves challenging those nagging, guilt-driven thoughts around changing the status quo, taking time for yourself and pursuing what’s important to you.
As well as psychology therapy techniques, I provide practical resources, tools and strategies that can help to bring about long term, meaningful change in the division of labour with your partner.
How we can work together
Therapy with a psychologist is an ongoing process. There’s no ‘quick fix’ solution. The weight of the mental load has taken time to get you to this point, and it will take time to reclaim your sense of self. But it is very much achievable.
Here’s how I approach it.
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We’ll spend time in your initial session getting to know each other and setting goals for what you want to get out of your sessions. If you don’t have a clear goal in mind, that’s completely fine – we’ll figure it out together.
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Throughout your sessions, I’ll use evidence-based therapies to help you understand your emotions, reactions and behaviours in a more meaningful way. Depending on your personal circumstances, I’ll help you to find new ways to cope with emotions and difficult thoughts, manage stress, and set boundaries for your wellbeing.
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One of the most important parts of working with me as your psychologist happens outside our sessions. This is when you’re in control of your progress. I provide practical steps, activities and guidance for you to take into your daily life, so you can continue working on your wellbeing. These won’t be overwhelming – it’s about small steps that can make a big difference over time.
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Using my professional insight into the mental load and division of labour, I’ll support you to navigate the mental load and invisible labour in a more sustainable and equitable way. Using my experience as a psychologist supporting parents, families and young people, I can help you strengthen your relationships with your partner to work towards sustainable change.
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Some clients will see me for a set of sessions, while others seek support for a number of months, before checking in occasionally when they need to. Regardless of whether we work together for a few months or more, it’s important to remember that maintaining good mental health is an ongoing process. My approach helps you to understand yourself on a deeper level and offers you the tools and strategies that you can use to care for your mental wellbeing.
It’s easy to fall into old patterns, so making time to reflect helps keep progress on track.
It’s not ‘just you’ – the mental load can take a toll on women’s mental health
Burnout is a common topic in the workplace, recognised as the result of ongoing chronic stress that hasn’t been successfully managed. It can have wide-ranging effects on mental, emotional, and physical health, as well as daily functioning.
For many working women, the same exhaustion shows up at home, where the mental load of keeping everything running can be relentless.
Just like workplace burnout, unmanaged stress at home can take a significant toll on your mental health — which is why it deserves to be recognised, not dismissed.
For many women, particularly if the concept is new, the idea of the mental load, invisible labour and burn out are a bit slippery.
Here’s how I frame them for my clients:
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Being exclusively responsible for planning, organising, remembering and anticipating the needs of your family is exhausting. It’s tireless cognitive demand.
If you feel overwhelmed and exhausted by the endless small acts – what everyone needs and when it’s going to happen – this is the mental load. Who needs a physio appointment, has the school excursion been paid for, does the home insurance need reviewing, which bin is it tomorrow, is there a birthday card for this weekend’s party, is there enough fresh bread for lunches, are the sports uniforms dry, and has it been too long since you saw family? It’s relentless.
The feeling of carrying this load knowing that no-one will automatically jump in to help if you drop the ball also feels incredibly isolating.
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Invisible labour is the work that goes into planning, organising and anticipating needs, not just the physical act. It’s the behind the scenes effort that makes everything happen. It demands women’s time and cognitive effort, and frankly, it’s exhausting.
Invisible labour is unseen, unpaid and typically undervalued work. These aren’t just the every day chores, like caregiving and managing the household, it’s everything that leads up to those chores getting done.
It’s why the offer of ‘I’ll cook dinner’ often misses the point – knowing what’s in the pantry, what everyone likes, what to make, getting the ingredients is the hardest part.
Typically, it falls to women.
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While burn out as a mental health condition technically relates to work-related stress, the symptoms are comparable in women struggling with the mental load. It’s still work, after all. It’s just unpaid and unacknowledged. Burn out often looks like fatigue, decision-avoidance, irritability and lack of motivation. It’s much more complex than just feeling exhausted.
I’ve walked this path, too.
While my experience of the mental load and its impact on wellbeing will be different to yours (because everyone’s is different!), I understand the weight, and the impact that symptoms like emotional exhaustion, empathy fatigue, overwhelm, and the frustrations that carrying all the balls for your family can bring.
Because I’ve experienced it too, I know there’s a path out, and things can get better. I also know that many women need support to find that path. As a clinical psychologist, I’m here to offer you that path, and help you lighten the load.